Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Sex advice from grandma (Must read!)

A Nerve reader's 84year old grandmother on sexual positions, STDs, and the importance of foreplay.
Written by Alison Denisco.
When I was twenty years old and dating my first serious boyfriend, my grandma Carmela asked my mother point-blank if I was still a virgin. She didn't get an answer, but I came home on my next college break to find the now-infamous Grandma Sex Letter patiently awaiting my arrival, the grandmotherly cursive writing on the back of a newsletter from her senior housing facility belying its scandalous nature. What follows is explicit yet touching advice on sex and love from my eighty-six-year-old grandma. 
Continue to read the letter. You will learn a lot :-)



My beloved Alison,
Now that you have become a complete woman, I want to give you my thoughts and hints on sex and love and a few lessons about people, from your grandmother who has been there to you who are just beginning.
1. To know if you are both in love, you feel a "connection" in bed. If you feel ALONE in bed when having sex, you are with the WRONG man. This is CRITICAL! The connection of mind, body, soul!
2. There is real love that everyone wants but it does not happen to everyone — it is called "soul-mates," spiritual, supernatural. This is the highest form of love — it is a religious feeling. You have found God. You know instantly, "love at first sight." You know he was meant for you and he is your real husband, and he knows you are his wife-to-be.
3. When having sex and the female does not enjoy it, I strongly recommend that the female gets on top of the man. It always works, the female has a climax and enjoyment. If he wants to perform oral sex on you, enjoy it!
4. Always make sure the man's penis is CLEAN. Make sure he washes it with soap and water before coming to bed.
5. Many men are PIGS. They want sex every day! You are not obligated to say "yes" to please him if you do not feel up to it. You never do anything unless you want to. To pacify the pig, give him manual stimulation!
6. Never, never do ANAL sex! You can get diseases, especially if after anal, he goes vaginal. Also ORAL sex is dangerous if there are cuts in your mouth, or sores. Men love it. Don't swallow his SEMEN! You can get throat STDs. There is no cure for herpes. Chlamydia and gonorrhea have no symptoms and can leave you sterile. You both would need antibiotics!
7. Some men are pre-mature ejaculators; that is very frustrating and bad for the female. He needs help to learn to control himself until the female is ready.
8. There should be foreplay to get the girl ready. As you get older, more experienced, you can skip all that and it is over in 7 minutes.
9. Perhaps you already know all these hints. I hope you find it helpful; I love you and do not want you to make a mistake. Never marry someone and say "Well, I can always get a divorce if I'm not happy." When there are children, you are never divorced. The ex-husband will be in your life forever, so make sure you marry the right guy.
10. Make sure you never marry an abusive control freak. When a man loves you, there is respect. He will be proud of you and your achievements — not jealous and needing to know your every move, or keeping you away from family and friends. Make sure he comes from a happy family with a loving mother and father who have a good marriage.
11. Never, never tell a boyfriend if you have any savings, inheritance-to-be or your salary when you graduate. Some men look for a woman with money. I do not respect such men! If he has credit card debt, DUMP him immediately! You only discuss finances with the man you want to marry.
12. Should you date a man who is stingy, dollar conscious, and you love to spend money, the relationship will never work unless you are a thrifty person yourself, then you can put up with him.
13. When dating a new man, do not feel obligated to have sex with him because he bought you dinner. To avoid this, pay for your own dinner. You are getting to know each other. You are not a homeless person who needs a meal.
14. Be happy, be with someone whose company you enjoy and you can't live without, and respect him. Watch out for womanizers, drunks!
15. You can make sure you know a man well by dating him on weekends and vacations. If he's unsure about committing, DUMP him. No excuses.
16. Hope you find the happiness you deserve. There should be love, respect, admiration, trust, and a mental and physical connection. If you find "true love," you will live happily every after. That is true.
Love,
Grandma Carmela

140 comments:

  1. Wow! This Grandma is so on point! Very candid indeed. i think ladies should learn from this. And it important for whoever you want to marry to come from a wholesome background, always check the family, relationship with parents and siblings. Linda i hope u've learnt from this *coughs*
    http://anygistnaija.blogspot.com

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  2. Love love love Grandma Carmella!!!

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  3. Lolz @ manual stimulation... Guess automatic stimulation exist too. Reasonable stuff though!

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  4. Grandma toh badt! Agba yin a dale ma oh.

    LI and her funny way of introducing things, my imagination was already on overdrive. I thought it was going to be one scandalous letter. Great advice. Very direct and fun to read. Grandma to gbayi.

    No pretentiousness or unnecessary sanctimony.

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  5. I just wanna cry.$$d woman is on point

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    1. Cry bawo.... Na wa o

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    2. E reach to cry! Especially wen for example, person don already marry and na d opposite of wetin grandma talk naim she dey see! She must cry oh! Cos e fit don too late!

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  6. Better Grandma!

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  7. Am wowed! Real good advice from a mom who loves her grand daughter,am a guy but i 've picked up a thing or two about what and what not to do for/to my lady,i hope parents learn to teach their children sex education and give them relationship tips as grandma above just did.

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  8. Couldn't have put it any better. Real advice from a realistic grandma. My wife is my soul-mate and I knew she was "THE ONE" the second I laid eyes on her. I know she will be reading the comments as she is an ardent fan of LIB. I will not trade her for all the Beyonces in this world.

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    1. U have cheated on her and now consoling her?? Lool I'm joking don't get upset

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  9. OffshoreoffshoreeMay 2, 2012 at 8:49 PM

    Real n true talks

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  10. Hmmmm I should call this "the 16 commandments of sex, love and dating".She is truly blessed for having such a loving grandma i must say that her commandments are a must keep for me!.

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  11. Awww,ths is so sweet,wise words from a wise old woman..My tummy almost burst with laughter whn she said she might contact throat STD's lol..

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    1. Shez ryt! Candida n herpes especially.

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    2. Shez ryt! Candida n herpes especially.

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  12. i find this advice so useful and its really educating.Women are not sex machines so u don't need to open your legs every night just because you want to please your man.If he wants to cheat on you,he will still cheat.No amount of sex can hold him down.

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  13. Hmmmm gramma is makin sense mehn*wink* pickd some points.

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  14. This is a funny! Love it!

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  15. Grandma has been doing more research from magazine and the internet of today. It's definitely not all culled from her experiences from back in the day. But the candor is refreshing. We need more parents who are not in-denial.

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  16. The old mama really try,but she should have advice her son 2. Na only women go benefit from the write up

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  17. i should save dis on my system

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  18. Ladies pls beware of guys whose family makes you feel they are doing you a favour by the son marrying you and also the one who is the breadwinner of the family cos they will always see you as an enemy i know what imtalking about cos im with one. imagine a situation where your husband never saved a dime despite been in the US for 10yrs and even does not mind taking your own money and want to do the man is nice with it.these type of men are nice to every other person except you and people even tell you how lucky you are not knowing what you are going thru.so ladies beware of exreamlly nice guys.

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    1. Hmmmph, I feel you, I understand where u are coming from. Think we are travelling d same on d lane

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    2. Some husbands are shameless sha with wicked family. All in the name of marriage smh. May God guide una *hugs*

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  19. Hmmm... Timeless tips from a naughty but candid Grandma. This should be required reading for all young women.

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  20. the grand ma of my dreamzz totaly on point..

    but she also said. "if you want to marry a girl look at her family's pocket if they are broke dump the girl, na you want pay their PHCN bills"

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  21. i wish i had ur kind of grandma, not all this pretenders around me.

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  22. I like the way grandma calls men pig .... and how we shud wash our penis before sex .... I hope she didn't forget to tell grand daughter how women can be BITCHY, how they shud learn to give good head and they shud wash their vaginas b4 sex wit all the nonsense that comes out of it ... Very biased grandma...

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    1. Yea the grandma was biased,women should also wash their pussy as men will wash their dicks,women should not cum inside our
      Mouth too as we will not cum in their mouth,inshort everything the grandma said should be for MEN and WOMEN to take note.

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    2. Lol @ u 2.... Don't worry we will take note too

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    3. The vagina & the eyes are the only 2 body organs that can clean themselves. Besides women are more prone to contactin STDs. Don't see anything biased in wat she said.

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    4. Lol. Seriously in terms of hygiene men r slackers! Lik u jst said all dt comes out of thr vijajay,dats y u guys think women need to be more careful and neat,neglecting your own hygienic needs. Grandma knows perfectly what she meant when she said that.

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  23. but nigerian women are always shy to givee their children sex education......lanray

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  24. I love this. everything is on point.
    The being on top thingy...very true

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  25. Tanx 4 sharing dis Grandma τ̲̅ȍ βε̲ђđ
    Copied and saved....:)

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  26. Anonymous 9:10 PM, that is so true. I once dated the most wicked guy/ person I have ever met. He was the biggest bully and the most insecure guy in the world, but to everyone outside he was an angel, a dream, a comedian. Ladies beware of over nice guys! When we first met, butter wouldn't melt in his mouth and he used to write poetry, few months later he became my biggest nightmare. I thank God I got out of that and it didn't lead to marriage.

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  27. Awwww bless you Grams. Wish I had one like you. I luv luv luv your letter!!

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  28. anon 9;10
    wowwwwwwwww!u just described my sisters marriage completely,.,.d hell nja women go thru in d name of marriage!

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  29. I love you Grandma Carmela. Thank God for your words of wisdom.

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  30. u re on point

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  31. Nices artical. Guys if you need tips on how to make cash online just visit http://ogundolavictor.blogspot.com/2012/03/make-money-with-football-betting.html?m=0

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  32. LMAO @ ANONYMOUS 9:22Pm "Biased grandma" buh she still yarn plenty truth hope say 9ja girls go start to dey pay for dinner. ur not hungry and homeless

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  33. Make sure he comes from a happy family with a loving mother and father who have a good marriage...
    Thats interesting..I guess we have to choose our parents before we are born, grandma

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  34. This is interestin n educative to me!!! I love u grand ma!!!

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  35. wow.,,,i wish i hv dis of grandma..she is superb..one and only..

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  36. Yes oo...Grandma is freaking biased.She should also giv tips on hw 2 care 4 da punanny against toilet infection as dat has become other of da day amongst ladies mostly teenage gurls.BTW would African mothers giv such healthy tips on sex and care to their daughters.

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    1. Plsss,all of u saying she is biased,she only wrote that to her grand daughter,u we're not put into consideration.

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  37. WOW! This is beautiful! I feel opportune to read this. Bless her!!

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  38. Wow what a story...GOD please help us.

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  39. woww..grandma u superb..d one and only grandma..all d singles out there shuld abyed 2 dis..pls linda hw can i get dis copy of dis latter?.

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  40. I hope Naija girls will take a note from #13 and stop doing "chop clean mouth" while claiming Ms. independent.
    Remember: There is a difference between being a woman and a girl.

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  41. Wow...although somehow, I doubt this is REALLY from her grandmother.

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  42. but Grandma,some women expect their pusies to be licked despite the repelling smell,as for me if a pusy doesnt smell good,i wont bother about sex again and wont even have an erection.

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  43. Never never do anal sex.hmmmm

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  44. WOW! This is beautiful! I feel opportune to read this. Bless her!!

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  45. I just have to print this out! Although as a guy, this article makes me feel grandma's daughter is a saint and innocent. Sm times ago my friend posted on FB 'gone are the days when ladies cook like their mothers, these days they drink like their fathers' ladies these days eehhnn..

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  46. gosh thats why u look up to some grandmas cos of experience..thats not only to her grand daughter but a lot of people should emulate that

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  47. gosh thats why u look up to some grandmas cos of experience..thats not only to her grand daughter but a lot of people should emulate that

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  48. Never never do anal sex.hmmmm

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  49. Pls wen are we men going to het a letter 4rm grandpa

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  50. Gbam!
    Go Grandma!!
    These were the days. Nowadays, in the name of being modern/the 21st century ladies we have lost all these essential core values.
    She is so on point.
    God bless her loving heart.
    I hope her daughter listened.
    I'm goin to to copy them & save them :-)

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  51. Well said Grandma I only wonder what your letter to your grandson would say???

    Tara

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  52. "When dating a new man, do not feel
    obligated to have sex with him because he
    bought you dinner. To avoid this, pay for
    your own dinner. You are getting to know
    each other. You are not a homeless
    person who needs a meal."

    I love this part. so if you know say you no go wan tidy after the date, just quietly pay forvl your own chops to avoid stories that touch cuz who price go pay. you no go chop my money finish come begin tell me say 'its coming'. I dey harsh! lol

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  53. OMG - WHEN WILL WOMEN LEARN TO NEVER TAKE ADVICE FROM ANOTHER WOMAN.

    EVEN THE GREATEST MOTHER OF ALL (EVE) CANNOT ADVICE YOU ABOUT A MAN.

    1. Grandma is very wrong because you can be in love with a man but he may not be good in bed or have a small ponyan (new word for penis). So does that mean you are with the wrong man.

    2. Wrong again - Soul mates is very rare and most people will never meet their soul mates but rather will make someone their soul mate by working on the relationship.

    3. Grandma was right here.

    4. IS Grandma smoking crack - So while doing foreplay and im ready to smash, i should get up and go and wash my penis with soap and water????? Yea Sure; that happens all the time. So women need to get up and go and wash their sweaty punani also b4 sex.

    5. I'm a man and don't want sex everyday. Maybe 2 times a week. SMH @ to "pacify the PIG, peform Manual stimulation"

    6. Grandma needs to take her Meds - so no Anal, no Oral and also no Swallowing of my milk shake.. So what do I say to the other woman who wants to do all three for me?
    Its a numbers game now and there are waay too many willing women who are looking for a guy to date and to cum in their mouth.

    The rest is on the way

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  54. 7. WRONG - He needs Jesus not help from a woman if he comes early.

    8. Foreplay is good. No big advice here.

    9. Make sure you marry the right guy" That is a stupid advice...How do you know that he is the right guy?

    10. So if a man comes from a broken home, he can never be a good guy for Marriage?

    11. GRANDMA REALLY NEEDS to Smoke some trees - So her advice is that if a man has credit card Debt, DUMP him. Granddaughter needs to tell Grandma that this is AMERICA and also this is 2012 so looking for a man with out credit card debt is like looking for man with Millions of dollars...good luck.

    Also Money is a crucial part of today's relationships and any woman that can't show me what I will be getting if her papa dies can go to Hell. My own papa left with me $$$$ in Real estate but she no wan reveal her own?

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  55. 12. Not bad...pretty simple analogy.

    13. OMG OMG OMG...Grandma deserves a Medal for this one...
    "When dating a new man, do not feel obligated to have sex with him because he bought you dinner. To avoid this, pay for your own dinner. You are getting to know each other. You are not a homeless person who needs a meal."

    14. Again, times have changed and men are very skilled. I am a WOMANIZER and I basically get what I want because women think i look shy and quiet. So advising someone to Watch out for womanizers, drunks! is pointless.

    15. Okay O - "If he's unsure about committing, DUMP him. No excuses."
    Men are very scared of commitment does not make us bad people. If you have been on your own for 25 years and all of sudden you are supposed to "accommodate" someone that you have only known for 2 plus years.. Very Bad advice from Grandma; ladies should sit down with the dude and find out why he is scared and try to help him get there with the assistance of his MUM because we always listen to MUM.

    16. ". If you find "true love," you will live happily every after. That is true" Yes a VERY BIG "IF"

    Only Men can give advice to women about how to deal with other Men,,,,

    16.

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  56. this is old though

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  57. God bless you gran ma. Wagbayi jor

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  58. I think we need more grandmas like mama Carmela to educate our teaming population of unexperieced young ladies we have around these days.

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  59. Really wish women in my family were that open to discussing sex and relationships! I'm not sure if everything is 100% accurate but I did pick a few things to learn and make mine. Nice post Linda!

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  60. you go Nana awesome!!!!am just trying to imagine my african Nan talking to me about sex loooool!!!

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  61. Please !Please! Check the family you are about to marry into! Never marry from a dysfunctional family! Especially where there is sibling rivalry ,hate,malice ,strife and all manner of evil works!
    They cover up and pretend until you are so in you cant get out!!! Then their true colours will come shining through! Ask their friends,neighbours even villagers about the family in question before marrying!

    Once the kids come no matter how much you want to ,theres no way out! Avoid wicked people,that we have as in laws!!! Move on to better things,no one is perfect but there are loving secure families out there!! A spouse that never experienced love first hand from his/her family can never give it to you! Be not deceived! Thanks Grandama Carmella!!!!!!

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  62. Please !Please! Check the family you are about to marry into! Never marry from a dysfunctional family! Especially where there is sibling rivalry ,hate,malice ,strife and all manner of evil works!
    They cover up and pretend until you are so in you cant get out!!! Then their true colours will come shining through! Ask their friends,neighbours even villagers about the family in question before marrying!

    Once the kids come no matter how much you want to ,theres no way out! Avoid wicked people,that we have as in laws!!! Move on to better things,no one is perfect but there are loving secure families out there!! A spouse that never experienced love first hand from his/her family can never give it to you! Be not deceived! Thanks Grandma Carmella!!!!!!

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  63. NYC-1 says: Every relationship is dynamic; therefore, what works for Ms. A, might not work for Ms. B. Greetings to her for educating her grand daughter on STDs.

    Advice could be deceptive sometimes. What is the grandma's moral values? Do you share the same moral and religious values? Christ is the best guarantee to a successful marriage. I know many experts who have written books upon books on Successful Marriages, yet they have had three to four unsuccessful marriages.

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  64. No 13 is my favourite. "you are getting to know each other, you are not homeless and in need of food"

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  65. A wise grandma I must say... Everything has been noted...

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  66. Thank you, Carmela.

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  67. this is an american women pls.....it is a different culture....

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  68. Wow! Wish I knew all this before marraige. But it is not too late. Will print dis and give to my teenage daughter who behaves as if she's from another planet. I'm sure she must have also read it here, but will still give it to her. Being a teenage mom myself has not been easy.my husband feels it's my duty alone to bring up our daughter. Thanks grandma carmella u have awoken me to my responsibilities as a mom and a future grandma. Bless your daughter for publishing it also and also you linda. I must say this is a bestseller! Pls also young ladies take note so you will not chop shit in your marraige just like we were meant to believe.

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  69. If Grandmothers are giving advices like this who can we turn to for moral advice, shouldnt the grandma altogether advice her not to go through with the sex at all before marriage? 20 years old is a lil too oyung for me, this just justifies sex before marriage cuz an elderly and supposedly wise person adviced it. yes i love elderly people tryna be open but what needs to be truth needs to be truth. just cuz u cant beat em dont mean u should join em. *patiently waiting for my crucifixion from u guys, but u know the truth deep in ur hearts. lets be frank!!!!!!

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  70. smh, if a grandma can advice this who are we to turn to for moral guidance, the one person that's nearing her end and going back to see her maker is still advicing a grandchild to feel connected during sex. this doesnt make sex before marriage right jut cuz an elderly and supposedly wise person advices it, a 20 yr old is too young to be having sex!!!! i liked the whole openness and being real but she left out an important point there, sex is not a confirmation for love, a connection goes way beyond sex and u can have it without having sex. currently waiting for my crucifixion but u guys know the truth!!!! the end is near!!! Nigeria used to be so moral though, where did we go wrong???? virgins are now like unicorns (non-existent). *hiss*

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  71. Ok! Sincerely,I've learnt a lot from this. Too bad so many others won't get to see this(esp those that need this more than we do). Will tweet each point 2 share;tagging yu;Lynn.

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  72. I want a grandma like u...

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  73. Nice advice for good girls and a shitty advice for bad girls: those who fuck for money, those who want to remain virgins and agree to only anal sex,those who are desperate for marriage and can marry beggars.

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  74. =))º°˚˚˚°ºнaĦaнaº°˚˚˚°º‎​=)) what a wonderful and caring grandma.u r so on point Gbam.

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  75. Please what on earth does grandma know about credit cards, a financial system that started when she was almost retired!
    Most ppl are unhappy and misled because they are too busy copying stuff like this, when each situation is unique.
    If God isn't at the top of your personal or marital agenda sef, u are on a long thing!

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  76. I like from no 9 to 16, having sex before marriage is wrong!!

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  77. Lovely !! ....Can you kindly find a faithful old granpa to give a write-up advice on sex and dating for gransons...........It will probably be too difficult, as the now granpa's were the men who gave the now advising granma her expiriences. :)

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  78. biased grandma.so biased i just dont feel the message

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  79. woooooooooooow 11/10 really shes on point!

    this is why we should be close to our elders..they do know a lot!

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  80. Thank u for ur words Grandma Carmela.......dis is a great lesson

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  81. This grandma is really serious and one sided like a Nigerian woman. I think a grandpa blogger is required here too.

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  82. so educative funny tho. Neyo

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  83. Timelessssssssssss!

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  84. u certainly cant get all this from a book or t.v program... she realy has hit d nail on d head and most of our mum av no idea about dis tokless of to shear it....thanks grand ma carmella for shearing dis with d world& phanx to linda for posting.

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  85. I agree with what the grandma said but not all of them. But my advice to Nigerian parents is to give their children sex education. They use spirituality to cover many truths here in Nigeria. That why you see many pastors children messing up in the higher institution because they get the education from the wrong people . Wake Up Nigeria

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  86. Beautiful pearls of wisdom. totally on point. especially the part about you buying your own dinners so u dont feel obliged to have sex with the man. this copied and saved!

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  87. This is a wonderful advice. Nt jst 4 de ladies alone bt 4 d men 2.

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  88. what a wonderful grandma! this is so 9c and educative.

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  89. Very interesting...copied and saved!!!

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  90. I must save this

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  91. Grandma U̶̲̥̅̊ ‎​are the best.Have this to tell my Four lovely angels.

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  92. quiet funny coming from an 86 year old grandma, but so true, very true!

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  93. ds is thought provoking and eye opening.lots of lessons from ds.great piece from a great woman i must say.

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  94. I need this grandma in my life, she needs to starther own blog giving advice bc most young pple dont hv any1 to trust or tell them whats best for dem. they just learn about sex & relatnships on d go and think wayward celebs r the gold standard.
    Grandma pls do d world a service and start ur own blog. Ur mates r prancing around on d fashion blog 'advanced style' so u too can do it. Tx

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  95. granma its right intense of hus respecting their wife and know that they are soul-mate and a help mate too

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  96. thanks grandama

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  97. I love u Grandma Carmella!!! Well said! I hope people get the message!

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  98. On point Grandma....can we now have a Nigerian Grandpa's view on Dating,love and marriage.It will kinda balance the equation

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  99. @ Caesar. U are very correct. Grandma should advice her son 2.

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  100. I agree wit her except on one tin, which is: cos a man is 4rm a non-stable family that means he won't be good4marriage.. Absolute bolox.. U can't judge ny1 based on only d@.. Its utter rubbish&i think its really unfair2say dis, children d@were innocent&unaware of w@eva myt v happened&v now grown in2men shunt 'get married'??? C'mon grandma..

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  101. @ anon 9.22pm Her advice is on point no doubt. But like U rightly said, she is biased.

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  102. @ anon 9.48pm No mind grandma, she nor know say she go advice both Men and Women? Because say she be woman, that's why her advice goes for women alone. She try.

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  103. I had given up hope bout women ever havin sense again in this world but this grandma just restored ma hope. Anyway I 4giv her 4 calling men pigs cos I understand it's as a result of some worn-out parts of her brain tissues.

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  104. She has lived till 86 so she speaks from experience. I mean this lady went through her 20s 30s 40s 50s 60s and 70s to reach these conclusion.

    I concur with what she said, makes a lot of sense.

    True it will most likely fit in with middle class western cultures because if it was Nigeria she would have added

    'Stop relying on your pastor/church to the detriment of your very life'

    Thought Provoking article on religion-> http://efemenaoreoluwa.blogspot.com/2012/05/thought-provoking-article-im-currently.html

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  105. you guys saying she is biased..u all dumb asses u know dat ryt..she is giving advice to her grandDAUGHTER..*FEMALE* not the whole world..did she know itl be put up on a blog and dudes will read it..smdh!

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  106. EVEN GOD DEY LAFFMay 3, 2012 at 12:07 PM

    very on point grandma.i tink i will show my kid sis did one

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  107. What a grandma.........so on point!!!

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  108. grand ma is on point 100%. wats d point in bn a virgin.i married a virgin 7yrs ago nd regret totally.no pt.have fun nd when u settle u settle.who can tell me d advantage.am sorry if am misleading some young kids bt dts hw i feel today.no advantage watsoever.also never marry a man or woman who comes from a fighting home where d mother controls d dad or vice versa.dts d case with my husband, after telling me all d wrongs d mum did to d dad, he treats me like am going to do same and d mum poisons his mind nt to let me do such to him.i come from a very diff setting.so am now realising.never marry a man with a poverty mentality.even when he starts making d money his mind remains poor and dts d worse kind of poverty.good luck.waiting for your responses on d advantage of bn a virgin till marriage.

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  109. Grandma is on poiNt cos some of des men are pussy mongers..

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  110. Lol... Washing the penis is definitely an advice I'd archive

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  111. This grandma is really on point... she sed it well....... ladies hope u av seen ds....

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  112. Lol... Washing the penis is definitely an advice I'd archive

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  113. Hahaha! Men are taking this personal oh! LMAOOO! Calm your nerves, Its never that deep. We dint write the letter, neither did we send the grandma to write it!

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  114. @Anonymous 9.32.....something tells me i know u

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  115. Go Grandma Carmela! I am saving this one for my daughter and son.

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  116. @ANONYMOUS MEE. Advantages of a woman remaining a virgin till marriage... the RIGHT husband respects & trusts you. Reason why I would never cheat on my wife, no excuse.... she remains brand new to me. Guess the standard should be applicable to guys too....

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  117. On Point!!! especially the tip about the woman on top..

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  118. one word classiy

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  119. im sorry but all these people saying 20 is too young to have sex blah blah blah, you all are just being ridiculous pretenders and that is why a lot of young people are going the wrong way about sex and love these days because of Nigerians and their fake pretending.she has some wrong points but she is being realistic unlike some of you.this is coming from a 19yr old!

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  120. Wowwwww @AnonymousMay 2, 2012 10:43 PM. So some girls want to remain virgins and agree to only anal sex??? That's a first for me, never heard anything as shitty!!! Can't be true!

    Anyway, grandma is on point on most account! I love the part about some men go after your money an all...that's the typical Abuja guy! Young and cute, nice car and awesome wardrobe, but still wants your money! I once had a thing for a guy who had a babe who had some change. We had a connectn, and same tribe, and I asked him to leave her, and guess his q: What's in it for me??? He asked me that! The typical abuja boy! Please ladies, beware of abusive men, once he insults u jokingly, take off, cos he'll ruin ur self esteem!
    Anal sex,leave that for the faggots, and if a guy asks you, he is gay, n shd get a partner ASAP, u r not a dog, and AIDS is real! Swallowing??? totally GROSS!!! Girls pls be warned....TC

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  121. She didn't say anytin new * yawn*

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  122. The Millionaire Who SingsMay 4, 2012 at 11:30 AM

    I want to address 3 comments made by some readers:

    1)This grandma wrote this to HER grand daugther only, NOT to the world or even with the slightest thought that it would oneday become public. So to called her biased is stupid;of course she is biased cos she is trying to give her grandchild the most honest advice on sex,something most nigerians have never received.

    2) In response to the comment that credit card were not around when grandma was younger...in short what experience is she speaking from abi? First, stupid comments like this make me cringe. Grandma shared a solid money management advice...to her g.daughter who she wants THE BEST for.The rest of you can date/marry those men who generally live above their means-which is the most common reason for most credit card debt.

    3)In matters of sex,generally speaking, MEN ARE PIGS. And don't worry guys,I can understand why you are pissed to hear grandma call you out...truth stings.

    4) I don't grandma is encouraging sexual intimacy b4 marriage.Unlike most of us who foolishly live in denial, grandma knows it exists and that the decision to engage in pre-marital sex is very much a personal choice.Instead of whinning about the reality,she chose to arm her grand daughter with some survival skills.Period.

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